I am 15 and in music class. The teacher is deaf. His eyes are lidded with sleep, enlarged in owly-y glasses, ears grown over with cotton-fuzz. Crystal is assigned to sit beside me. “Eat it” she said, pushing a spitball toward my face. “No” I breathed, a thing flying in my chest. The class faintly [...]
I had the lovely opportunity of being a guest on The Young Turks to talk about my egg donation article. And then we talked a little about my bisexuality. Then it came up that Ned is bisexual. And then it was hard to circle back to egg donation
This piece was originally written for and published in Gapers Block Errol and I are in the car. He’s been to The Sins Center before and I, well, I have never been to a BDSM club. “So tell me again about the last time you were there,” I ask. He shakes his head. “So I [...]
This past Sunday, I was a guest on the fabulous Kink on Tap podcast. One of the things we talked about is how sex–and adjacently STI’s–are on the rise for senior citizens. I spilled to the audience something I have been working on: a journalism piece about elderly BDSM. This one is coming soon, but [...]
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I talk fast. Here is the text. With the book “Sex at Dawn” coming out there a light is suddenly shed on research that shows humans are not naturally monogamous. From evolutionary psychology, we know that men are naturally non-monogamous, their urge being to spread as much seed as possible. But it was long believed [...]
I’d get in at 8:50 and carefully hang my coat while the phone rang. My voicemail would be full of messages, left in that window of infomercials and irrational thought patterns. “ Yeah, uhm. I was wonderin’ about this egg donation that I read in the paper. It says I can make $7,000.” The overwhelming [...]
You know that moment when you first wake up? Somewhere between dreaming and consciousness; not yet remembering the night before. I bask in that second. I stretch my legs long in bed and feel some cracker crumbs. What time did Moira leave? I was sitting at the bar for awhile, a glass broken beneath my [...]
On my laptop there is an ever-increasing folder of images. Some of them, like this one (found here) end up as photos on Rabbit Write. But many, you’ll probably never see. They are, plainly, porn. I have this worry-fantasy, where a friend or someone will pull up my laptop to find these naked bodies projected [...]
Yesterday I was in the shower, the warm-cool space where I do my best thinking, and I realized that so much of what I’ve learned about my sexuality has been through asexuality–from somewhere invisible in sex-positivity, in feminism, from somewhere that isn’t sexual at all. Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction. It’s not like [...]
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Txt: See ed note in bold Too many of us have made those three little words our mantra: I’m so fat. I’m arguing that you should never say them again, and not because “you’re totally not” even though that might be true. When you say “I’m so fat” what you are saying is that your [...]
