I’m sitting on the edge of the bed. The room is dark, filled with the sound of flesh smacking flesh and throaty “ahhhhhs.” Next to me are huddles of middle aged men, standing, pants-off, half-hard. I’m sitting upright, purse in lap feeling a bit overdressed. In front of me is a triple set of couples, [...]
I used to keep a tight mental-list of the number of people that I’d slept with. Awake at night, I’d go over that tab, searching for faces or bodies I’d surely forgotten. It gave me some a strange comfort. Some women pride themselves on their vast shoe collections. I took delight in my veritable rainbow [...]
February 28, 2009, photo by Matthias St. John When I was 24 and Ned was 24, the topic of marriage began appearing before us. There, at our dinner-table somewhere between the cucumber raita and curry. Marriage, suddenly on the lips as we sat on the porch sharing a glass of wine. Everyone says “you just [...]
Uterus Plush by Vulva Love Lovely When I was in high-school I took free samples of the pill. And I made sure I took one everyday. I had a friend who never seemed able to remember hers. She’d leave a whole weeks worth in the pack then spend hours throwing up, after taking them all [...]
photo: crystin moritz The fuck buddy system is broken. No scratch that, it never really worked to begin with. I can get behind one night stands and promiscuity, I believe in polyamory and swinging– but fuck buddies, I just can’t get behind. I am anti fuck-buddy. I recently had a reader ask for insight on [...]
When I was 12, it seemed like I was the last of all 12 year olds still not shaving her legs. I had found scrappy ways around other rites of passage. There was one bra that came from my cousin in a garbage bag of hand-me-downs. There was the was the body spray I found [...]
Spring is spreading like an electric blanket over the city. This means two things: Spring vegetables are showing up at the co-op where I buy groceries and in the streets, Spring mini-skirts are too. I once heard Chicago cops have a different name for Spring, they call it “rape season.” One thing that I notice [...]
I want to take you back to what might be a scary place…a place which you’ve exiled to the bottom of your pool of memories, a place called… grade school. Once your brain begins flooding with the images and memories of your 4th grade self, take a second to remember how it felt. Do you [...]
When people enter into a monogamous relationship, it is often with the idea that they have found “the one.” They are expected to no longer experience sexual infatuation with other people, just that one true-love. Yet, in the large number of healthy adults, sexual response to attractive men or women is normal. It is okay [...]
When in a post-turmoil situation, the look that often accompanies is frump: sweatshirts, pajama pants and no make-up. There is something about hiding behind layers of comfy clothes that really does just make you feel better. After a traumatic situation, the last thing you might want to do is put on a persona and paint [...]
