Tag Archives: Self-Exploration

Self-Exploration is bravely digging into yourself, your unconscious, it is about learning how our experiences have shaped us and consciously breaking patterns to give us ultimate control over our own lives.

Our Body Hairs, Ourselves

It was hidden beneath layers of  black clothes. When I’d find myself alone in a rest room, I’d look in the mirror and lift my shirt to reveal the fuzzy underarms, a shock of hair that felt luxuriously soft and foreign. Arm-pit hair serves an evolutionary purpose. It helps waft our scent to the noses [...]

Food is Personal: My Ambivalence with Eating Meat

I felt like I couldn’t exhale. I had been walking around all weekend, sucking air into my cheeks, smiling and waiting for the family weekend to end so I could collapse in the car and possibly die on the way back to Chicago. But, that is not how it happened. Instead, I erupted. It was [...]

Makeup Tutorial Reversed: Why Women Wear Makeup

A make-up tutorial video done in reverse while I attempt to answer the question: why do women wear makeup? Overview: Why do women wear make-up? I wear and enjoy make-up. In one sense, it is a way to express yourself, your mood and your interior life. I love the whole transformation process and I an [...]

Friends with an Ex

I walked hurriedly, but slowed to check myself out in the dark window of a restaurant. Making mirror-face, I pouted my lips and fluffed my hair. Then, I saw that this was the place. Into the door, I realized with slight embarrassment I’d been checking myself out in the window at the booth where he [...]

Exploring the Secret Spaces in Childhood

I sat on the couch, symmetrically, both feet on the floor and my eyes closed. The inside-world projected behind my eyelids was just as real as the couch beneath me, or the therapist facing me. In that space, I saw a younger version of myself. In the woods, she played a secret game of slowly [...]

If I Had a Magazine There Would be No Horoscopes

“Whats your sign” used to be a joke of a pick-up line, reserved for dudes in polyester with male pattern baldness. At least that is what I gathered from watching Nick at Night as a kid. When I hear “What’s your sign” it is usually a question with a woman attached at the end. Her [...]

Anal Self Esteem + Pleasure

My mother always told me, “Don’t have butt-sex. No, don’t ever do it!” she’d caution, arms flailing, playing her I’m-a-registered-nurse card. “That area was NOT made for that!” “Have you ever done it?” I would slyly inquire. To this, she’d give a huff and an almost believably-acted, “No!” At the time, I hadn’t done it [...]

Music and The Unconscious

Music is a personal experience. Some songs are so satiating, so validating they almost feel like a lost part of you re-discovered. When these songs get stuck in your head, it only re-affirms this scrawled-on-the-soul experience. “I keep waking up with this song stuck in my head–a Kate Bush song,” I said, on a November [...]

PTSD: Post Traumatic Sex Disorder

This  write-up was on Bust.com “We are expected to cheer The Good Sex Workers on because they are subverting paradigms and confounding out expectations of what a stripper is. But while the media loves this story,  it marginalizes all of the women who aren’t doing sex work to put themselves through college, or to pay [...]

God=You

Part 1 Part 2 I wanted to share this set of videos, because it is one of the most exciting conversations I have come across in awhile. I’ve not seen something so beautiful and thoughtful on the topic of atheism and de-conversion in, well, maybe ever. While other atheist memes are quick to point a [...]