Comments on: Oprah’s segment on buying your daughters vibrators

By: Jan

Jan — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 13:01:55 +0000

I didnt ask my mum about sex and she never approached the subject with me. My first experience of a vibrator was when i found my mums Rabbit Vibrator when i was baby sitting one night ... i will never forget it.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 04:58:28 +0000

I wish I grew up in a sex positive household. My parents didn’t tell me anything. I didn’t even know what a period was until I had mine (and BOY was I scared!). I’ve never mentioned sex to my mom, and she’s never mentioned it to me. I learned everything by myself, and I wish it could’ve been different.

I ended up buying my own vibrator when I was 15, and needless to say I hid it from my family.

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Skeptical Parent Crossing #9 « AtheistParents.org Blog — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 17:34:58 +0000

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First Carnival of Feminist Parenting « Mothers For Women’s Lib — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 13:09:15 +0000

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By: bryce

bryce — Mon, 18 May 2009 07:29:53 +0000

isn’t part of the fun of masturbating the fear of getting caught? like i can’t speak for everyone but i have always thought that was exciting…

By: Out the Other Side

Out the Other Side — Fri, 15 May 2009 05:45:21 +0000

Bravo, Rabbit! I couldn’t have put that better myself. I am also all for children learning about their own sexuality in an open atmosphere (that encourages curiosity but that establishes certain boundaries between parent and child).

I believe that it’s ultimately better for parents to discuss masturbation as being a healthy part of their sex lives. Masturbation tends to get a bad wrap in this department and a lot of parents get overly freaked out about talking with their kids about something that is not only natural — but is also STD and pregnancy free.

However, I completely disagree with randomly handing teenagers vibrators. I believe that this is going too far into he other extreme and not only is that incredibly creepy, but it can further put a bad or unhealthy association to something is a natural part of being a human being. I , for one , would have most likely been scarred for life if a parent would have given me a vibrator at all during my formative years. You can’t expect a sex toy to give you all of the answers when it comes to how to deal with your own natural sexual desires.

By: pretty robotic

pretty robotic — Wed, 13 May 2009 21:02:21 +0000

love this article. the last line sums everything up so well! great work!

By: slutmuffin

slutmuffin — Tue, 12 May 2009 19:06:35 +0000

I think this is a great summary of the issue, especially the part about buying a toy for your daughter without her input/consent. That is the most problematic aspect of it for me.

Sexuality in general here is steeped in taboo. So, yes, there needs to be a cultural shift that moves away from punishment for wanting to explore what comes naturally.

http://www.indy.com/posts/take-your-daughter-to-the-sex-shop-day

By: the incredible jessen

the incredible jessen — Tue, 12 May 2009 15:17:37 +0000

one of your best posts yet rabbit