Because I apparently have to stop working every 15 minutes to check blogs and social networking, I found myself reading about an ex-sex-worker coming out in an interview about her experiences. The write-up was on Bust.com and the writer opened with her abhorrence at the interviewer’s ignorance, who took the typical talk-show “oh my god, [...]
Just as I was writing my post about the hook-up culture and death of dating as our Grandparents knew it, the feminist blog-sphere was being lit up. In this corner of the Internet the old argument “is the hook-up generation bad for girls?” had been dug up from the bin of tossed around ideas, like [...]
I was in highschool during the turn of the millennium, it was a time when a classic-put down for my age group had suddenly become lost. Slut was a word that sounded powerful, that one might cut up from a magazine to proudly paste onto her decoupaged notebook, a word she might see emblazoned in [...]
The first time I had anal sex, it was a decision made out of the self-assertion that I was open minded and adventurous in bed. The whole dialogue that influenced this decision was entirely in my mind. When this partner suggested anal, I wanted to do it do it for him—and after a mini frenzy [...]
There is something in the past of my relationship that I’m not proud about, but I’ll go ahead and say it: I used to feel a tinge of jealousy when Ned would masturbate. It wasn’t full on anger, or even conscious envy, but it was there. Of course I could come up with a million [...]
There is one very intense, meaningful question that every woman has to find an answer to: Would you keep the baby or not? This question found it’s way into my living room last night as Ned and I sat on the couch after a successful budgeting discussion, we realized we were coming up on our [...]
Boy meets Girl–or Boy and upon a drink bought and sheets tossed in, something happens. Getting to know one and other goes past the one night stand hump, past the few weeks emergency-stage and into the territory of relationship. Then, it can become a time-bomb ticking away to that one day. In mine and Ned’s [...]
So often the idea of Holidays and seeing family is more happy and comfortable than what actually happens. Coming back from a Holiday that was a bit stressful or unpleasant-at-times can set off a spiral of sadness, dissociation and self attack. Yet after post- December- turmoil, most people don’t settle into extra self-care. We come [...]
I want to take you back to what might be a scary place…a place which you’ve exiled to the bottom of your pool of memories, a place called… grade school. Once your brain begins flooding with the images and memories of your 4th grade self, take a second to remember how it felt. Do you [...]
When people enter into a monogamous relationship, it is often with the idea that they have found “the one.” The special person that supposedly holds the missing piece of their soul, someone that will solve all of their problems. In return they are somewhat expected no longer experience sexual infatuation with other people, just that [...]
