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]]> By: Rabbit White http://rabbitwrite.com/sex-the-internet-privacy/#comment-7586 Rabbit White Tue, 20 Oct 2009 18:27:51 +0000 http://rabbitwrite.com/?p=1690#comment-7586 Alle: Aw thank you so much for your comment, you made me feel particularly light and happy about this subject! Miss P: Yeah I think it is so key to talk to our partners about these things, I just had mine read a recent article I wrote last night that happened to be probs the raciest thing I'd ever written, he approved but it is crazy how many emotions talking about our sex lives can bring up! Annabelle: Thank you for your insightful comment, I definitely feel you on this one. Glad to see that you are taking precautions. Also <3 your blog! Alle: Aw thank you so much for your comment, you made me feel particularly light and happy about this subject!

Miss P: Yeah I think it is so key to talk to our partners about these things, I just had mine read a recent article I wrote last night that happened to be probs the raciest thing I’d ever written, he approved but it is crazy how many emotions talking about our sex lives can bring up!

Annabelle: Thank you for your insightful comment, I definitely feel you on this one. Glad to see that you are taking precautions. Also <3 your blog!

]]> By: Annabelle River http://rabbitwrite.com/sex-the-internet-privacy/#comment-7575 Annabelle River Tue, 20 Oct 2009 05:14:06 +0000 http://rabbitwrite.com/?p=1690#comment-7575 I've been asking myself the same question lately, especially since I stumbled across a job posting for a marketing position that would have mostly entailed paid blogging for companies. In that case, everything I have out on the internet under pseudonym would have been my best resume line. And I'm not ashamed. But realistically, certain family learning the "quirks" of my sex life could create great drama in my life that's just not necessary. And I've already had two people figure out my BDSM proclivities from links to people I had on an old LiveJournal account as "friends" who had less privacy filters than mine did. So I'm pretty open with my friends in real life, but not with my family or co-workers - and in real life I can control that distinction. Everything I write on the internet is under a pseudonym that I don't frequently advertise to people I know in real life. I take care not to use too many proper names so my two identities can't be linked by Google search; and I periodically Google Annabelle River with my real name to make sure. Since my boyfriend also keeps a sex-related blog, I've asked him to also use my pseudonym. No blips or drama so far. I too wish it weren't based on pragmatic fear. .-= Annabelle River´s last blog ..<a href="http://annabelleriver.blogspot.com/2009/10/filament-magazine-thinking-womans.html" rel="nofollow">Filament Magazine: The Thinking Woman's Crumpet</a> =-. I’ve been asking myself the same question lately, especially since I stumbled across a job posting for a marketing position that would have mostly entailed paid blogging for companies. In that case, everything I have out on the internet under pseudonym would have been my best resume line. And I’m not ashamed. But realistically, certain family learning the “quirks” of my sex life could create great drama in my life that’s just not necessary. And I’ve already had two people figure out my BDSM proclivities from links to people I had on an old LiveJournal account as “friends” who had less privacy filters than mine did.

So I’m pretty open with my friends in real life, but not with my family or co-workers – and in real life I can control that distinction. Everything I write on the internet is under a pseudonym that I don’t frequently advertise to people I know in real life. I take care not to use too many proper names so my two identities can’t be linked by Google search; and I periodically Google Annabelle River with my real name to make sure. Since my boyfriend also keeps a sex-related blog, I’ve asked him to also use my pseudonym. No blips or drama so far.

I too wish it weren’t based on pragmatic fear.
Annabelle River´s last blog ..Filament Magazine: The Thinking Woman’s Crumpet My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Miss Peregrin http://rabbitwrite.com/sex-the-internet-privacy/#comment-7454 Miss Peregrin Fri, 16 Oct 2009 21:35:21 +0000 http://rabbitwrite.com/?p=1690#comment-7454 I don't share too much about my own sexual life online, not because I'm ashamed, but because my partner asks me not too. A big part of what any two people have together sexually is trust, so I want to preserve it. But, at the same time you (or anyone else) should certainly be able to write about sex without any fear that doing so will hurt your future career options. I would like it very much if our generation was the one to throw sexual stigma out the window. .-= Miss Peregrin´s last blog ..<a href="http://missperegrinssecrets.blogspot.com/2009/10/thought-for-day_16.html" rel="nofollow">Thought For The Day...</a> =-. I don’t share too much about my own sexual life online, not because I’m ashamed, but because my partner asks me not too. A big part of what any two people have together sexually is trust, so I want to preserve it.

But, at the same time you (or anyone else) should certainly be able to write about sex without any fear that doing so will hurt your future career options. I would like it very much if our generation was the one to throw sexual stigma out the window.
Miss Peregrin´s last blog ..Thought For The Day… My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Alle Malice http://rabbitwrite.com/sex-the-internet-privacy/#comment-7453 Alle Malice Fri, 16 Oct 2009 19:57:06 +0000 http://rabbitwrite.com/?p=1690#comment-7453 I air an awful lot of my life online, and sometimes it bites me. But I don't feel any shame or guilt surrounding myself and my sex life, so what are people going do with what I put out there? The issue that I have had this past year is people TAKING the few parts of my life that I try to keep private and making them public. Suddenly finding myself being called a slut--and worse--in public, to my face and behind my back was a horribly demoralising experience. It made me second-guess myself and the ways that I am, sexually and personally. But at the end of the day, the dogs bark but the caravan rolls on. You write about sex in a positive, intelligent and sensitive way. Any publication or person who doesn't want to hire you based on the fact that you've been honest about sex isn't anyone that you want to work for. xoxo .-= Alle Malice´s last blog ..<a href="http://allemalice.wordpress.com/2009/10/15/detox-end/" rel="nofollow">DETOX + REHAB: at the end of all things</a> =-. I air an awful lot of my life online, and sometimes it bites me. But I don’t feel any shame or guilt surrounding myself and my sex life, so what are people going do with what I put out there?

The issue that I have had this past year is people TAKING the few parts of my life that I try to keep private and making them public. Suddenly finding myself being called a slut–and worse–in public, to my face and behind my back was a horribly demoralising experience. It made me second-guess myself and the ways that I am, sexually and personally.

But at the end of the day, the dogs bark but the caravan rolls on. You write about sex in a positive, intelligent and sensitive way. Any publication or person who doesn’t want to hire you based on the fact that you’ve been honest about sex isn’t anyone that you want to work for.

xoxo
Alle Malice´s last blog ..DETOX + REHAB: at the end of all things My ComLuv Profile

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